Dr. David Hamilton discussing how kindness makes us happy and benefits the heart through the effects of the hormone oxytocin.
“A small group of people with kindness and compassion in their hearts can change the world”
The Power of Kindness
The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life
By Piero Ferrucci
The Table of Contents is a wonderful place to begin to appreciate this wonderful book: Ferrucci simply lists the following qualities and then devotes one chapter to each.
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In the selected passages, below, Ferrucci shares more on the art of living.
On Patience –
“Immediate gratification is one of the most obvious aspects of our contemporary social life. We don’t want to wait, we want everything straightaway, and we become aggressive when we cannot have it. In the era of impatience, we have lost the art of waiting. I believe that to rediscover this art and to teach it to our children is to give them one of the best possible gifts.”
On Flexibility –
“In a universe in which nothing stays the same, it is hard to find any stronghold that may offer us protection and security. The only way to survive consists in the art of adapting to events that continually take us by surprise.
On Respect –
“Thomas Yeomans, author and founder of the Concord Institute, talks of the “soul wound”, what we feel when as children we are not seen for who we are – a soul full of marvellous potential for love, intelligence, and creativity –but instead are perceived as a difficult, headstrong child, or as a lovely showpiece, or as a great nuisance – or not seen at all. If the true self is not seen, we are hurt, and this wound will accompany us into adult hood. In order to be accepted, we will cut our ties with out own true soul, with all that really matters to us. Knowingly or unknowingly, we will try to become what others want us to be, or on the contrary, because of our pain, we will be at war with them. Our deep wound will be a remote, opaque reminder that we have lost who we are. Thus, we will survive, but we will not live.”
“… we are made of our perceptions. What we see or presume to see day after day constitutes who we are and colours our entire life. If our view is tired and stale and if everything we see appears empty, we will end up empty shells ourselves. If we see people as interesting and special, our world becomes stimulating and open.”
“Our perception is like a ray of light falling on a plant – it makes it more visible, nourishes it, stimulates its growth. Think of how many talents and qualities in everyone that are not fully manifest because they are not seen.”